Dealing with Bullies and Bullying

Bullying is one form of harassment inflicted by andone by bad mouthing the victim, refusing to socialize
abuser of more physical and/or social power andwith the victim, name calling, mocking the victim, forcing
dominance than the victim. Bullying is often done withother people to avoid socializing with the victim as well,
clear intentions of harming the target through differentand other forms of manipulation.
means.  These means may include: verbalBut why do bullies act this way?  Some studies have
harassment, physical assault, emotional blackmail, orshown that some bullies do it to be thought of as
other more subtle methods of coercion such aspopular or tough, or sometimes just to get attention.
manipulation.Bullies are said to also do it out of jealousy or they
Bullies are often characterized as having authoritarianmay simply be acting out because they themselves
personalities.  They also feel a strong need to controlwere bullied earlier in their life. Some bullies are noted
or dominate anything, be it a weaker person, ato have come from abusive families and
stronger person, or a situation.  They have also beenneighborhoods.
noted to display deficiency in terms of social skills andBeing submitted to bullying often may contribute to
possess a prejudice against subordinates.  A lot ofdeveloping inferiority complex, which is a feeling of
studies show that  most bullies have envy andbeing inferior to others in one way or another.
resentment as motives for bullying, Researchers haveConstantly being mocked or criticized in a negative
identified other risk factors such as quickness to angerway by bullies may force a person to start believing
and use of force, addiction to aggressive behaviors,those lies and lose faith in themselves. Victims may
mistaking others' actions as hostile, concern withalso be more prone to developing stress related
preserving self image, and engaging in obsessive ormental conditions such as anxiety from oftentimes
rigid actions.being bullied.
Bullying exists in any setting of inevitable socialVictims should know that they're not the problem, the
interaction, like: schools, workplaces, inside the home,bullies are. Victims should not start second-guessing
and around the neighbourhood. This may even occurthemselves just because bullies telling them they're no
between different social groups, social classes andgood.  Being different shouldn't rob you of your right
even between countries. Like any kind of abusiveto security.  Don't be ashamed of your difference. 
behavior, bullying is a repetitive act done to gain powerIt's not your fault you are unique.  A good way to
or control over another person, race, or country.avoid being bullied is to go out in a group, it would
Bullying is generally classified into:make it difficult for bullies to single you out.  If it doesn't
·    Direct bullying. The bully displays physicalwork, it would help to tell someone you trust that
aggression in the form of shoving and poking, throwingsomeone is bullying you.  Having someone mediate
things, slapping, choking, punching and kicking, andfor you does not make you a coward.  Remember,
beating.keeping yourself safe should matter more than what
·    Indirect bullying. Also called social aggression,others think.
the victim is forced into social isolation. This is usually