| Q. I've always tried to work hard enough to provide for | | | | through it. If one way doesn't work, they will try |
| my family and be content. The problem is, when I'm | | | | another. If that way does not work, they will try still |
| content, I get complacent, and everything starts to fall | | | | another way. And so on until they find a way around |
| apart. How do I keep going and avoid getting | | | | the obstacle.There's nothing wrong with feeling content. |
| complacent?A. There's nothing wrong with feeling | | | | It's something that we all strive for in life.2. Ants are |
| content. It's something that we all strive for in life.The | | | | always getting ready for what's nextThey don't ever |
| problem comes, as you have so well stated, when we | | | | rest on their laurels. In the summer, they are thinking |
| drift from contentment into complacency. Let me give | | | | about the winter and getting ready for it.3. Ants are |
| you an example of the results of complacency, and | | | | creatively industrious and resourcefulAnts don't |
| then how to overcome it.I recently heard Clay Shiver, | | | | complain about not having the right tools to do what |
| former FSU All-American center and former center | | | | needs to be done. They take what is available right in |
| for the NFL Dallas Cowboys, speak about | | | | front of them and find a way to make it work.4. Ants |
| complacency.When he got to the NFL, Shiver, who | | | | are always hopefulIn the winter, when they are holed |
| played center, was the only starter on the offense | | | | up in their little ant mound, they are using what they |
| who wasn't an All-Pro player. The team also had won | | | | stored up all summer and know that as cold as it is, |
| three out of the last four Super Bowls.The year he | | | | summer is coming, and they are getting ready for it.5. |
| started, the Cowboys posted a record of 6 wins and | | | | Ants don't seem to believe in the concept of |
| 10 losses. Shiver said he thought the reason for such a | | | | enoughThey store up all that they can for the winter. |
| bad season was that the team had gotten | | | | You have seen the acronym on restaurant signs |
| complacent, had lost its hunger. He remembered being | | | | AYCE. I used to think that must be some kind of |
| in the huddle where two All-Pro Super Bowl | | | | special brand of food. It took me forever to figure out |
| champions talked about how they couldn't wait until the | | | | that it stands for All You Can Eat.Instead of focusing |
| season was over so they could go on a fancy trip. | | | | on All You Can Eat, I think we would do better to |
| They lost the next five games.That's the best | | | | focus on what the ants do, AYCD, which stands for |
| example of complacency I think I could offer you.I can | | | | All You Can Do.If you constantly follow these five tips, |
| sum up the cure in just one word. Ready?Ants.That's | | | | you will consistently beat complacency. Think of it as |
| right, a-n-t-s, ants. One of the benefits of having kids is | | | | being content and always hungry to make things |
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